Wednesday, 4 February 2015

Wedding nerves

When you’re planning the biggest day of your life there is plenty of advice about looking absolutely fabulous on the day. However, it’s just as important that you feel wonderful too. This should be a day to remember – for all the right reasons!

Wedding nerves take two forms. There is the anxiety of the actual day itself when it arrives, but also the constant worrying in the time leading up to it.  Of course, you could change your mind! No, I don’t mean by cancelling the wedding, but by changing the thought processes that cause many people to dread the very thing they should look forward to!

You can learn how to deal with both forms of anxiety, so that not only will you be relaxed and radiant on the day itself, you will actually look forward to it in a positive way too. It’s surprisingly simple, and only takes a couple of sessions.

So whether it’s fear of blushing, being centre of attention or maybe the best man is terrified of making his speech; let’s start planning now to make some perfect memories to look back on this time next year!

Wedding Nerves Q&A

Why do people suffer with wedding nerves and anxiety?

The problem starts in the imagination. As the word suggests, the mind forms images – typically of things which may go wrong – and if these images are vivid enough and repetitive, the subconscious mind begins to react to them as if they were real, producing adrenaline and the familiar anxiety symptoms of the “fight or flight” hormone, adrenaline.

What is the best thing to do about it?

Talk to an NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) mind coach. They are trained to help you reprogram your mind to a more positive way of thinking. With a little guidance and practice you can use that imagination to begin to look forward to the big day in a positive way.

Is there a "quick fix"?

For once, there actually is. Assuming the client doesn’t have a more serious underlying problem, such as depression or obsessive-compulsive disorder, the thought processes can be turned around in one or two sessions of NLP.

Are wedding nerves or anxiety unusual for Bride/Groom?

It is very common. The majority of people are apprehensive about the “public speaking” part of the day, in particular. An NLP mind coach can teach you how to feel naturally confident and calm on the day – even at the moments most people look forward to the least!

How long will it take for nerves/anxiety to go away?

The process starts almost straight away. As you practice the simple techniques you are taught, it rapidly becomes second nature. Of course, just because it works quickly doesn’t mean you should leave it until the last minute. The sooner you start, the sooner you can begin to enjoy looking forward to the biggest day in your life.

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